When the Magic Of Making Up joined the long list of how to make up books in the relationship arena not many would have given it a passing thought.

But you’ve got to hand it to author T W Jackson, he knows his stuff because it really hasn’t been all that long since it launched and a good part of the early months were spent trying to get it into the hands of spurned lovers.

Now, with almost 7000 people helped worldwide it’s suddenly starting to make people in the relationships field sit up and take notice. No, this isn’t a review for the Magic Of Making Up but we want to pass on some timely advice from within it’s pages.

Have You Just Been Dumped?

This is for those of you currently in a situation where your partner has basically dumped you. The truth is, when all looks lost and you are full of panic and desperation the best thing to do is simply walk away and accept the umpire’s decision.

What!…not the advice you expected to hear but reality is, there is really nothing you can do during this time to change your ex’s mind.

- The first is you avoid any unnecessary conflict. For example, by being in a state of mind of panic and desperation you’re likely to want to be argumentative…not good.

- Secondly, by doing something rash will just convince your ex they’ve made the right decision.

- Thirdly, by walking away will gain you some respect in the eyes of your ex and this is something you can leverage off to your benefit when you commence your efforts to win them back later on.

The bottom line is, this time will be good for both of you; the time will definitely be needed to relax the feelings of panic and desperation for both of you and will also give you in particular, time to really assess whether you really want to go back.

Do You Want Your Ex Back?

This may be hard to swallow especially when you’re looking for advice on how to win back your ex. Point taken but you really can’t ignore the fact that there must have been underlying problems apart from the obvious which has split your relationship.

Feel good about yourself and don’t simply want to go back because it’s what everyone else wants. This is the time to assess the differences between you and your ex and if the negatives out weigh the positives.

There are no winners in a break up during the initial split because feelings are at an all time high, the Magic Of Making Up is not an instant process but done correctly, will give you the best chance of getting your ex back.

Tags: Divorce