The pain of coping with a break up is mentally torturous and unless you’ve been there, then it can be hard to understand just how numbing an experience it can be especially when you still want to stay in the relationship.

If you are in this situation, then have you given thought to the prospect that perhaps the person who spurned you may not be right for you.

That’s probably a little hard to take at the moment because you’re in need of advice on how to get your ex back but just think for a moment – think about the things which led to the break up, think about your relationship during this period…was it as good as it could have been?

T W Jackson’s bestseller, The Magic Of Making Up is primarily full of techniques to help you get your ex back and cope with a break up. But what sets it apart from other how to relationship guides is the fact that Jackson also speaks about the possibility that the relationship may not be right for you and shows you how to find out.

4 Ways To Tell If Your Ex Is Right For You

If you’re on the wrong end of a dumping and are struggling in coping with a break up, then don’t despair, the world is not about to end.

In this article, we want to share a strategy highlighted in the magic of making up process which can determine if it’s really worth saving your relationship.

In a nutshell, you need to assess your relationship objectively. The first question you need to ask yourself is your relationship worth saving. It’s a vital moment in coping with a break up and the following can help you determine this.

1. Grab a notepad and make two columns.

2. Make one a positives column and the other a negatives.

3. Now it’s time to look at your relationship and list the things you liked about it and the things you didn’t like. Be objective and also list the positives and negatives about your ex.

4. Once you have made a list don’t make any rash judgments based on your findings just yet. Think about it for a few days, Ideally, putting it away for a week is great because it gives you an extra week to clear your mind.

It’s amazing how much clearer you will look at a situation when you’ve got things written down on paper and make coping with a break up a little easier.

There may be some negatives which you knew were a problem but simply suppressed them. This could be due to the fact that you didn’t want to admit the relationship was in trouble, that you failed in the relationship or simply a way of coping with a break up.

If the list of negatives swamps any positives then that could be a clue to go your separate ways. But if there were only a couple of negatives and a ton of positives then you’ve got some work to do.

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