Being spurned or for want of a better word…dumped can reduce the strongest mentality to dust but if you have any plans to either get your ex back or deal with it and survive mentally, then you need to play down thoughts of panic and desperation.
It’s one of the secrets revealed in The Magic Of Making Up where T W Jackson goes straight to the core of the issues in a break up and confronts them head on.
But dealing with a relationship break up is all about having your heart torched and ego torn and it’s natural to feel panicky and desperate you’re probably thinking. Yes it is but to survive it initially then it’s going to take some strong willed courage and go against that tide by keeping a cool and level headed disposition.
Let me ask you this…do you really want to get your ex back? No truly, is that what you really want? If you feel hard done by and confused about getting dumped then do you really want to get back with this person who has “pulled the rug from under your relationship feet?”
Sure, they are tough questions to answer right now but in this article, we want to show you that there are some options you need to consider and if at the end of it you still want your ex back then The Magic Of Making Up can certainly offer the guidance you so desperately need.
Being OK With Yourself
In the first instance, try and put aside any emotional pain and let your ex know you’re okay with the decision. Simply tell them that you have been thinking about it for sometime yourself.
The reason you do this is two-fold:
- to make yourself feel better
- to give your ex something to think about
By making a statement and declaring it you’ve stated it officially and it’s amazing how this can help ease some emotional stress.
Secondly, your ex obviously held the “whip hand” up until you made your statement so just as the break up may have taken you by surprise, then so will your statement take them by surprise. At least it will get them thinking a little more about you and even plant thoughts in their mind that perhaps you may be seeing someone else.
What does this do? Well usually, people want what they can’t have and if you walk away and agree with the break up, then you’ve loosened that emotional hold they have over you.
Time For Reflection
Now is a great time for you to break the shackles and sit down and do some analysis. This is a powerful way of dealing with a relationship break up.
You need to analyze the positives and negatives of both your relationship and your ex. List the good points of your union and then make a list of the bad points in your opinion. For this to be effective, you need to be totally honest.
This will again have two benefits. You can see at a glance if there are too many negatives about your ex and relationship to even waste time trying to get back and it will continue to ease the emotional stress you’re experiencing because you are facing it head on.
The whole idea of this process is about getting you to feel good about yourself and that you’re okay. Until you begin to feel good about yourself, then the way you feel will express itself in physical form and it’s unattractive not just to other people but also your ex.
It’s a solid way in dealing with a relationship break up because lack of self esteem comes into play and you quickly need to realize that the whole world is not watching you and waiting for you to trip up.
Tags: Relationships
