Every marriage starts with a lot of hope and dream about life long association filled with love and togetherness. But very few marriages fulfill the hopes of the participants in totality.
There are various reasons for this but here we single out 6 of those. Every young person who is planning marriage should be aware of these most common pitfalls.
1. Marrying for the sake of love without first checking the depth of love.
No denying that all relationships start with a sense of love and mutual liking. Committing to a long term relationship like marriage solely on the basis of that feeling of love is a mistake. Because most of the time this kind of feeling is superficial and can not pass the test of time. Romantic feeling dies as time passes and far more important issues like family background’, ‘values’, ‘religious faith’, ‘financial stability’ raise their head, and these issues are of real importance which almost every body with feeling of mutual love ignore.
2. Marrying someone who does not share an interest or hobby.
While marriage with a person who does not share an interest or hobby does not itself make the marriage unstable, presence of such an interest or hobby can make life more enjoyable for both the partners. And this can make a real difference so while selecting life partner this aspect must be taken into account.
But for some reason or other this aspect is often overlooked before marriage. And efforts start after marriage to adapt the partner to one’s own interest or develop a new common interest. While that is not an impossible task, the process of adapting may become un- palatable and may lead to unstable marriage.
3. Not knowing what questions to ask for checking compatibility.
As discussed earlier that marriage decision based on initial sense of love may be counter productive. To make a marriage successful one should do some simple homework. Knowledge of future partner’s background and certain other things can play a crucial role here. But many young persons either do not try to know all these important facts or do not know what are important aspects s/he must know to make their marriage successful.
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Tags: Marriage, Marriage and Family
